It is amazing how we compare ourselves to others in life. It seems that it’s human nature to want to know how we’re faring on life’s journey vis-à-vis our peers. It’s important though that we take cognizance of the fact that everyone’s journey is different and that while we might arrive at certain checkpoints ahead of others – that’s no indication of how well we are doing in life. This also applies to our babies and our children. I remember the almost obsessive fascination I developed with all the weigh-ins at the clinic during our son’s first few weeks on the planet. It was as if every gram he gained was a direct reflection of my ability to be a good mother (with sufficient quantities of nourishing milk!). I would peek over at other babies’ charts to see if my son’s growth trajectory was on par with theirs (and honestly, I’d hope that he was outperforming them – after all – it sounds cooler to say that your child’s in the 75th percentile than in the 25th percentile!).
In hindsight, I can clearly see how silly I was. When it comes to children, despite the fact that there are numerous books available purporting to be the ultimate guide to them, they tend to follow their own agenda 😉
When it comes to developmental milestones, we need to accept that while your child might learn to clap a bit earlier than your friend’s, it is not an exact guarantee that he’ll become a member of the One Direction of the year 2032 😉 We need to make sure that we provide a fun, loving environment in which they can grow and learn and discover the world around them at a pace that they enjoy. There are many toys on the market and so much literature on which toys they should be playing with at which age and how. I found the MySmartKid.com program quite helpful in terms of age-appropriate toys and the accompanying book, which was developed by a panel of child development experts also proved quite a useful reference, which is why I’d like to give away a one-year membership to this program worth R1700. Every 2 months, you’ll receive a toy and play guidelines. The first parcel also comes with a fantastic book with developmental milestone indicators that I also found very insightful and practical. The little back pack it comes with is also quite special – I’ve found it quite useful as a nappy bag for little outings while I wait for my son to be big enough to carry around his own goodies in it 😉 To win, simply share your comments below and I might be sending you an e-mail in the next few weeks to get your details to get your subscription to MySmartKid going. It’s also available in Afrikaans as MySlimKind.