Some people feel that I should show my family on social media. I often feel the same … until I’m reminded of how strangely intrusive (and unnecessarily negative and critical) social media can be. As someone who has spent nearly half of her life in the media, I am relatively comfortable with people discussing me (sometimes in a negative light) on social media and the glare of public scrutiny. However, neither my husband nor our children signed up for this scrutiny and out of respect for them, I try to keep them out of the media as far as I can. Just the other day, I saw a friend post an adorable picture of her son after lunch with his toddler belly out and toothy grin. I “liked” it on Instagram and wanted to post a friendly comment. I was absolutely shocked, though, at a few comments on the post discussing whether the child suffered from malnutrition because of his “bloated stomach” or whether she was doing something wrong as a parent. People who had never met her and who had no idea that she is the most incredible mom who literally cooks every meal from scratch. Honestly, I was amazed that people would use a platform such as this to criticise one’s parenting.
Yes, I enjoy social media and I guiltily enjoy counting my likes and reading comments, and I’m grown up enough to know that you can’t please everyone. I just think that social media and the relative anonymity of a “username” has eroded some of people’s manners. I can handle harsh words from strangers for no particular reason, but don’t want to expose my children to that.
I admit guilt for once angry-tweeting Kim Kardashian when she said that she couldn’t wait to leave Cape Town and she was so ready to go home. The chances that she read my tweet are miniscule, but for some reason, I felt her tweet was offensive and wanted to let her know that. What on earth was I thinking? Did it make me feel better? No? Did I prove something? No? Lesson learnt and I’m sorry, KK.
Why has social media become such a negative place?
Until I figure that out, I’ll continue posting pictures hiding my family’s faces in the most subtle way possible. What are your thoughts on social media? Post below and stand a chance of winning R500 in your bank account – the Modern Mommy team will let you know you’ve won via e-mail. You have to follow @ModernMommyBlog on Instagram to qualify so click here if you’re not following already! http://www.instagram.com/modernmommyblog
Love and Light,
xx Modern Mommy