As Mother’s Day approaches and we get ready to celebrate the women who have given us so much … let’s take a minute to reflect on the fact that some mothers are not necessarily the biological moms of our children. I’d like to use this post to acknowledge the “other-mothers” of our children – perhaps a very South African phenomenon, but the nannies we are privileged to have as part of our families are often the unsung heroes who sacrifice being with their own children to help to raise ours. Most of my friends elsewhere in the world marvel at the fact that I am able to be a working mom with two young children. Most South African women know that we are only able to work and achieve in our careers as a result of the fact that women across the country and often from elsewhere on the continent leave their own children to look after the children of those in more privileged positions.
I am beyond blessed to have had an incredible woman as our nanny for almost 3 years now. Without her, I would not be able to go to work with a happy heart, knowing that my children are looked after by someone who loves them like a mother. I remember growing up in Blackheath with an incredible nanny called Mildred and later, Nomvu. I remember these women as such strong parts of my upbringing. I remember once when my brother was ill and crying, he called for Mildred and not my mom, though she was close by and I could see my mom’s feelings were slightly wounded. Today, I could imagine a similar situation in our household. I am sincerely grateful though that I have a co-mother. Yes, she works for me, but it is so much more. Our nannies are an intricate part of our families and provide so much more than just 8 hours of work. They provide love and trust to our most precious little people.
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Love and light,
Modern Mommy aka Jo-Ann
Photos of me shot at Camps Bay Retreat by Cameron McDonald for Clicks (this month’s Clubcard cover)
Make up and Hair by Shanaaz Alexander
Styled by Vikash Gajjar in Forever New